Why do i feel connected to this person

There are few resources available to teach people how to foster real connection in their lives. For meaning to be cultivated through relationships and connections, understanding what it is, learning how to connect with others authentically, and focusing on giving connection- not receiving it.

When it comes to creating an authentic connection, location is not as important as recognizing who is trying to connect with you. At the same time, to establish a relationship, you have to be prepared to reach out as well, and practice talking to someone.

Often this simple act of conversing, listening to the other person and offering something back is what leads to the forging of an affiliation. It is simply our willingness to show up as we are, and our trust that we will be taken care of.

The best part about it is that the other person will remember you as someone that they were able to share a genuine moment. Authentic connections are as rewarding as they are difficult to obtain sometimes, but the effort is indeed worth it. It is our discernment to give our time and energy to those who respect and cherish it back. And, if after a while, you meet the same person again, you can easily re-establish a connection with them through Contact Mapping.

Trying out our Contact Mapping app is easy — you can join free for a month and enjoy a different way of making connections. Coffee Shop Interview. But could you get even more clarity by speaking to a real psychic? Clearly, you have to find someone you can trust.

After going through a messy break up, I recently tried Psychic Source. They provided me the guidance I needed in life, including who I am meant to be with. I was actually blown away by how kind, caring, and knowledgeable they were. Click here to get your own psychic reading.

A genuine psychic from Psychic Source can not only tell you whether this is your true soulmate or not, but they can also reveal all your other love possibilities. You walk into a room and your eyes lock. When you walk into a room these days — are you still drawn to them? Do you still feel that instinctive pull? Conversations are such an important element of our lives.

Interactions with people in our lives are set up from that first conversation we share. It takes a special person to be able to dive into the important conversations that mean something to us. Meaningful conversations have been found to be one key to leading a happier life.

By developing a metaphysical relationship, you have that one person you can turn to when you want to talk. You value and respect their opinion, which means you are offered new perspectives on life issues. Have you ever felt a connection so strong you would throw yourself in front of a bus for that person?

There is a strong desire to keep this person safe and happy. You need them to enjoy their life, simply so you can enjoy yours. Your happiness is dependent on theirs. No judgment. No questions asked. The hero instinct is a new concept in relationship psychology that explains why some couples forge a deep metaphysical connection, while others pull away from each other.

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Laughter stimulates your heart, lungs, and muscles, while also increasing those endorphins. These magical chemicals release your body of stress and pain and help produce a feeling of euphoria.

Sharing a laugh with someone actually fosters bonding. Everyone knows the awkwardness of that first date. Sitting across from the other person, conversation ideas running through your head.

Everyone that is, except soulmates. When it comes to the metaphysical connection — you simply skip this step. Right from the get-go, you are brimming with conversation. You could talk into the early hours of the morning if time allowed it. The fact is when you are with them the words flow so freely. When you experience a metaphysical connection, these conversations enable you to explore your inner self and discover just who you are and what your purpose in life is.

The love you feel for this person is like nothing you have ever experienced before. Your affection for them is without limits. There is nothing they can say or do that will change the way you feel about them. Quite simply, you offer up this love to them, without requiring repayment. I learned this from relationship expert Amy North. If you want science-based techniques to make a man fall in love with you, this video is well worth checking out.

Click here to watch the free video. It is earned and built on overtime. You are the point you have very low self esteem and have anxiety. A counsellor or therapist creates a really safe space where you can actually try not being perfect. Which can be amazing to experience and a huge relief. You seem to be quite young, so we suggest you read our article on how to get help when you are a young person.

I used to be great at connecting with people and making friends then all the sudden, within the last few years, it seems like who I am as a person was no longer connecting to anyone anymore. Mostly because people started to tear my self esteem down.

I used to be a very outgoing and happy person and I started meeting people who secretly hated how outgoing I was or just seemed jealous of me overall and they ripped me apart. My life is mostly great. I attractive, healthy and active, I have my dream condo, I have my dream job, I have hobbies that I enjoy but for some reason, people just start nitpicking me and ripping me down, especially men. I also think I lost touch with what people actually want from friendships and relationships now and I just feel confused.

For me, connecting was always simple. For whatever reason, I felt like people were not interested in connecting with me no matter how much I did each of these things. So naturally, I started to become more introspective, introverted, and focused more on myself.

I stopped socializing completely to the point that I became a total homebody. I started developing more personal hobbies that I did alone and kept to myself. I started to enjoy my own company because I felt like I understood myself. I have never been like this in my entire 31 years of living.

Part of me feels like its the city I live in. When I travel to other cities, people are friendlier and more interested in being my friend then here. The other part of me thinks its just what happens when you turn 30 and you realize you are still single while all of your former friends are focused on marriage, kids, and career. Where in life, or from whom, did you learn you have to be perfect and positive all the time? Is it possible that this is not sustainable or even real?

Aged 28 to 30 is the time many women seek therapy for the first time because they start to realise there is a whole side to their personality they did not know about. Sure, we can blame it on the city we live in, the people around us. Or we can take the time to explore who we really are. In summary, we would guess that this introverted, uncertain side you are claiming just happened because of other people putting you down, and this edge of low self esteem that is surfacing, have much older roots, that they have been part of your life experience since childhood but that you have managed to keep hidden until now.

It creates a safe space to vent without being judged, to figure out who you are and what really matters to you, and to help you raise your esteem and feel truly comfortable in your skin instead of judging yourself. When we are truly comfortable with ourselves -all of ourselves, not just the cherry picked, controlled version — we rather easily attract the friendships and relationships we have longed for. Hi, Recently I ended a friendship with my bestfriend and it was easy for me because I had been thinking about it for awhile.

Am I just in the wrong crowd of people? Or is it something else? We do grow and change as people, and sometimes we do have to let go of friendships. Possibly connected to what sounds an unstable childhood.

However I find it impossible to build those relationships. I really struggle letting new people into my life. I just have such a strange fear around people and theres no real reason or past trauma I can think of to back it up.

Hi there, thanks for sharing this. We would say seek therapy over it, and not just as we love therapy! And because therapy itself is connection. You develop a relationship with your therapist. You might find there are experiences you have overlooked that are creating your intimacy issues — often the mind avoids looking at things, but somehow the environment of the therapy room seems to pull things out.

We wish you courage! Rej, thanks for this honest sharing. First of all, congratulations for getting sober. Can you give yourself some credit for this?

Because what is needed here is that you start seeing what is right and not just what is wrong. Part of the reason we can struggle to connect is if we have such low self-esteem we are terrified of others seeing us in a bad light so block connection with our own fear and sabotage. So look, back to getting sober. The reason we drink, take drugs, whatever it is, is that we are hiding from emotional pain. And when we go sober, well damn it lo and behold all those repressed emotions and experiences are still there waiting for us.

So yes, we can feel under a tsunami of shame and self hatred. You are sober, for today. What else? Could you make a practise of spending time each and every day writing down what is going okay? This is called a gratitude practise. It slowly reprograms our brains to see things differently.

One, self compassion. We think it might be a good fit for you. In summary, you are on the right path. But you are on the right path now. But the best place to start is to connect to yourself. How can you be kinder and more compassionate to yourself starting today?

We wish you courage. Growing up I had a lot of family in the house, but I always stayed in my room because I knew every time. I expressed the way I thought about things I was always seen as weird.

I would always stay in my room and watch sitcoms. Thinking about how great it would be to have a group of friends to talk to, a d understand. And now I have friends, but I always feel myself trying to be interesting to fill the uncomfortable silence. I have co-workers that try to talk to me, but I avoid all conversation because I know trying to connect with me is pointless.

I just found this article late at night and felt like sharing. Thank you! Thanks for sharing Eli! I cant bring myself to show the real me to people. Its always just bits and pieces of the true me or some fake personality altogether. I dont think i ever truly connected with anyone and even though I want to, I dont trust anyone enough to talk honestly about something concerning me or stressing me.

I had problems understanding them and i still dont understand people and the way they act and think. I have breakdowns once or twice a week where i just cry myself to sleep and it keeps me going for a while but its not really pleasant. Another problem is the anxiety. I have absolutely no problem with strangers and apparently appear like a normal person on the first few meets but if i truly like someone no matter if romantically or friendly I start to get so nervous i literally throw up or get the runs or just faint before even meeting them again my best friend is an exception.

I dont understand where that fear is coming from and i have no idea what it is that i fear. But if i get this fear i just clam up and break off contact sooner or later because of the health issues cant eat, throw up out of nervousnes, runs, loose weight, dehydrated, STRESS,… I feel hopeless and have no idea what to do anymore I tried convincing myself that its not so bad, tried anti stress exercises and so on.

When i think of opening up to someone who knows me i get an adrenaline dose which makes me loose appetite instantly and usually leads to me not eating at all for the rest of the day so i push these thoughts away as far as i can.

Do you have some tips or tricks or some piece of advice to help me? These are deep rooted issues. I want to make sure my perspective is correct about this matter. Pam, an excellent question. And this means we never feel grounded when alone. What would it feel like it you DID belong? How would you think and behave differently?

A powerful question to play with….. Writers to look into here are Brene Brown and Toko-pa Turner. Hi, I have been depressed for some years due to some circumstances. I never understood what I was feeling until when I got into the college. People called me names and told me how bad I was. I got more depressed than ever. I stay away from people and I intentionally or unintentionally do things that will keep them off no matter how hard they try.

And some times I want to be out there but I get so scared. Please I need help. Hi Hilda, that sounds really tough. Because nobody deserves to feel so lonely. Some of us just have different ways of seeing the world than other people. Perhaps we have a personality disorder, or are on the autism spectrum, or are just really oversensitive. Because we are in the forest, we only see the trees, not the whole forest! We need someone else to come along with a different perspective to show us, hey, you are stuck in a forest, here is where you are and how to move forward… All colleges have counselling available for students these days, either low cost or free.

Can you look into it and see what you can find? I came across this looking for connection. Hi Mariah, sounds like you are feeling overwhelmed and your coping mechanism is to hide. A lot of us have it. In the long run it leaves us lonely, feeling misunderstood, and even creating a false self for others so we can hide our real feelings more and more.

Often this arises from a whole lot of self judgement. In summary, you need support. He or she will create a safe environment for you to be any way you want, and they will never judge you for it.

Good luck. When I go to university, I have a friend. They were close to each other through military service in the school. Because you are looking for a place to go to school. By the way, the room is empty, so please ask me to stay together. He agreed. And so the two of them are in the same class, going to the same class, the one who cooks the dishwasher, the hero of the money together is generally very close.

But in the second year, I have recently dropped a few subjects at school and so I have to study two different classes. Except for a few subjects, there are no prerequisites to study together. And I study e with b, I think thinking about studying together you will work together, help each other like that.

But it is not like it is very separate. She has to play with other students and learn together. I felt like I was not qualified to tell b speaking in English language every time the subject pass was promoted and gradually became uninterested and began to shun. Only when it is necessary is something important e ms say b.

Is it too weak for me? Is it selfish? But we think what you are saying is that you want really intense connection or not at all?

I have been feeling very alienated from others.. My dad gave up on himself and myself as well. My family moved across the country and I felt completely alone for 3 years straight. I forgot what it felt to be loved by anyone really. Fast forward to now, I have moved in with my family because I thought It would be good for my mental health but I cannot connect with them. Could this pain numb the feeling of love?

Or expressing emotion? Hi Bailey, sounds like not only did you lose your Mother, but you were pulled out of the world you knew. Both are traumatic and the two together must have been quite a shock to the system. And you sound dissociated — trauma can mean we live our life sort of floating outside of ourselves, unable to connect not just to people but ourselves. We can feel foggy, floating, does that sound familiar? We would say it would be best to take this very seriously and seek support.

A counsellor or psychotherapist, one who has experience working with grief would be great. But the end result will be improved moods and relationships. I have studied sociology, psychology, philosophy,have a counselling certificate, was a nurse for many years and have worked with people with alcohol and drug problems for 17 years.

Your definition of a personality disorder is simply inaccurate. Just because someone sees the world differently from others or even from most folk does not mean they have a personality disorder. Hi Michael, you are paraphrasing and taking it way out of context, pulling one sentence from a section? The section in this article discussing personality disorders covers all these bases if you read it properly. We are predators, and we tend to seek out others that are as well and if we find those that are not, who are higher order, more evolved, we want to make them feel threatened and at fault.

They are basic predatory animals. So why pretend otherwise???? Humans cannot, and will never connect. But we believe the effort would be worth it, and that you deserve to feel like you belong here with the rest of us, instead of constantly let down. All the best. If they critisize me about something …keeping that in my mind im hating them n hurting also….

Is it my nature im born with or can i change now? Please help…tthank u…. As children, when we grow up so criticised, we then learn to hide our emotions and thoughts, indeed, our real selves, in order to get the love we need.

We need support to raise self esteem and learn to be ourselves. You might also want to use the search bar to find our articles on codependency and anxious attachment. Good luck! Hey I hope you could shed some light on my situation. Thank you. I struggle with connecting with people I already have a connection with.

It recently became much worse than when I was younger. I feel burdened by having to say yes for a social visit. I notice when I do invite friends or family, the thought of having to entertain them gives me anxiety and wanting to cancel, but once they arrive I enjoy the company. I feel horrible for how I feel when my friends or family reach out to me.

Im a very caring person, who always makes sure my family and friends feel loved by me in anyway possible, but having to really push myself to meet with them is just one of the things I really struggle with. I need to understand why I am like this. Because I understand the root of it all, and have made peace with it.